Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Questions of Choice and Consequence


Recently, I have felt God wanting me to read through the book of Job.  That is a scary prospect to come to.  At first I willingly obeyed.  I like it when I do that.  I wish I did it every time.  Then a question hit me:  “Why?”  Why does God want me to read Job?  What most people remember about the book of Job is that God allowed all the prosperity of Job to be taken from him even though he was a really stand-up guy, so naturally I quickly start to worry whether God is preparing me to undergo the same thing.  Maybe He is, but as I started thinking about it, a reason much more specific to me started forming in my mind.  I have a problem believing that the blessings of God depend on my actions.  I hate sin.  I despise myself when I fall to it, and I have found myself wondering if I have missed out on some of the good things God had for me in my life because I lusted or spoke in anger.  Marriage is one of those things.  I see most of the people my age married and having children, but that is not something God has given me.  I wonder why.  Is it something I did?  Did I mess it up?

I don’t want to negate responsibility for sin.  It is true that sin can directly keep us from experiencing the blessings of God.  In 2 Samuel 11, David fails miserably.  It is hard to think of a man failing in a worse way.  First he gets lazy and dishonors himself by not going out to war with the men he has sent to the front.  He commits adultery with a woman he has been put in position to protect as her king, and then he conspires against and murders the husband of the woman he violates.  God punishes David as the child conceived in adultery is lost.  Bathsheba also had to live with the death of her child and possibly the fate of Uriah for her part in it.

What I have wondered is if God is holding marriage from me a punishment for my past sin.  This question has tormented me, especially since my ex-fiancée called off our wedding and has refused to speak to me since that point.  God has allowed me to move passed my relationship with her, the pain of the relationship ending, and the confusion of being left with no real closure, but the question still remains.  Is this a punishment?

I also felt God’s call in a way that leaves no doubt at all in my mind or heart to be up here in Indiana far away from anyone I knew.  I am eternally grateful for those who have become my friends.  It has made more of a difference than they could possibly know.  Yet, it is still hard sometimes to go home to an empty apartment.  Is this punishment?

In light of these questions, the story of Job suddenly makes a lot of sense.  Maybe, these are just the trials that God has for me.  Maybe, like Job, they have nothing to do with the sin I have committed.  It is just the hardship of the calling He has given me.  I told Him that I would go.  I asked Him to use me, and He certainly has.  The joys of this calling are as great as the pains.  It is a calling of extremes, but I have to minister.  I have to be a pastor.  I know the calling He has put on my life, and I would ask for no other.  If I am to be unmarried for the rest of my life, it is a cross I will just have to bear, but maybe it won’t be that way…

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